Most people will admit that certain areas of their lifestyle could use improvement. All will admit that in life "stuff happens". When things give us a set back we must first admit to reality. This is the first reality, admitting something needs to be done. The drinker who wants to stop drinking, still drinks, the unhappy partner in a marriage who is deciding to get out or stay in. Addicts still addicted to everything from sex to drugs; all use money as triggers and some friends as deceivers.There is a deep sense A sense that lives within; deep inside themselves; there is a monster inside. That monster is connected to good or it can be connected to bad. The choice is yours as to which monster prevails. The essence is the center of you. In it, each of us knows something is not right, in it, is also the beauty of life, yet without discussing your feelings, we bottle up and lock up other feelings which may cause the essence to be damaged or attacked. The essence is the "thing" that must be allowed to grow, without infection. This is because as human beings we where taught to "handle our own business",or to be seen and not heard. Today we must be heard, if not we stress ourselves. That is why there are so many stress reduction workshops or mood disorder clinics popping up. People tend to keep a lot of "stuff" inside ourselves. Now is the time to open up with your best friend or your spouse. Communication is part of the essence of independence.
In a clean and respectful manager, however for many, this concept has been lost. Why? There are many holes in our road of thinking. If only we would follow the sign of improvement, which takes effort, we may overcome self-sabotage. We ask where to begin? Begin with the "essence" the center of you. Our essence of feelings, are the "patch work quilt" of life; that exists within you. The goal is to improve your independence, free from corruption. We must communicate more with our children, friends co-workers. For this month let us try to be open about our feelings and then see if your personal stress level reduces.
Independence: is an old but new lifestyle, in terms of, "independence" being a positive adaptive response to life's stresses; one may say, independence, is, the "final answer" in terms of balancing all aspects of human needs. (Similar to Maslows Needs Theory).
Independence is what each of us continues to work towards, regardless if you realize it or not. Everyone can benefit from independence. Is it not independence when you have to ask for every little item you need? The secret is; being self-motivated develops independence; it allows you to work for what you want. Personal motivation/wellness is the result of proper nutrition and clear thinking, staying away from negative situations, exercise on a regular basis, and a strong desire for improved self-esteem, rest, and ample relaxation including a healthy sex life. Through managing stress, assessing your own lifestyle habits and focusing on your personal goals, enhances a feeling of self-worth. (Sounds familiar?) Awareness of self-esteem, self-worth and self-control leads to the re-birth of a new you, and that is inner peace.
Inner peace and happiness. Take a few moments, to reach inside yourself through meditation. By meditating on what it is you need to change you can create a map, or plan to follow one on improvement. Let us spring clean. Write down the ways you plan to spring clean yourself. We will address those issues later. Make a short list of what you feel is the ten most important characteristics you want to change about you.
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Reason for balance in our life
Create: "A Painting for the Mind".
Question: When was the last time you had a great hair day? Meaning,
everything you said and did just made others happy. Write it
down_____________. If you can't remember use this date.
Mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, socially, finances, independence, sexuality and culture are tools that when working together in unity(balance); work together for the sake of wellness. For this reason we will bring back those wonderful hair days again. One without the other creates unbalance living. There is something missing and the body desperately seeks to find a balance. In searching for that unmet need, we tend to overcompensate. Once each aspect of wellness is in unbalance mode we create self-destruction, if we have balance you will notice less complaining, less worry and more positive thinking.
What is inside you? Think for a moment, your back pain, headaches, tension, stress, motives, being overweight, inactiveness, relationship problems, life on the streets, low sexual desires, personal problems, homelessness, joblessness, at risk behaviors, discipline problems are all related to a lack of a proper wellness lifestyle, thus, creating a destructive lifestyle of confession. Many do not know how to balance their daily life; they just react, the outcome is daily bitching. Ever notice those individuals who just seem to complain about everything (the weather, the bus fare prices; "she what she is wearing") these people lack independence. They depend on everybody else for what they need. They smoke, drink lots of coffee and do not exercise. Every moment is a potential argument; they are in and out of jail. Most are on government assistance (they have many bad hair days). I have talked with many well to do individuals who once lived with "bad hair days" here is what they did to turn their life around.
First they never stop trying to change a bad situation into a positive. At one time they had bad relationship problems, many complaints, they bitched about everything, they ate fast foods on a daily bases, drank too much and worst of all allowed negative people into their life. The common denominator was many individuals traded in drinking, hanging out with "the boys or girls" socializing with others before their family. They let their homes be run by people who did not have a home. They let parasites in. They were selfish and lacked proper communication skills with their families. They would exchange or replaced clean living for what appeared to be a good time. They would stay out late, why?Because whenever they stepped in from the outside, the first thing they would receive was bitching; "do you know what Sally did? Why, did you leave that cup on the counter? They would not go to the gym, always ate on the run and never prayed. The end result was a list of unmet needs.
What are your unmet needs? Write them down.
A major question is; How do you change an unmet need or a "unmanageable, destructive stress filled life; a start and stop approach lifestyle; which is filled with the typical" tried-fail" patterns? How do you transform unmet needs into met needs or supportive, goal setting, enjoyable, balanced, successful, moneymaking enjoyable and positive lifestyle, free from procrastination?
Answer: have a plan to remove the procrastination; incorporate a unity of wellness approach and open new lines of communication, then change your associations. It dose not matter who is right or wrong or what "Sally" did. What matters is sharing your thoughts with those who care about you. Then doing something about it.
